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Words of Power – The Science of Affirmations

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What are affirmations?

Affirmations are positive statements designed to combat negative thinking. Seemingly simple, overtime they can help you make fairly profound changes in your attitude. Consciously or subconsciously, we use them all the time. Like when we tell ourselves, ‘I am confident’ repeatedly, before stepping on to a stage or when we start praying for our team to win in a match. All of our self-talk or inner dialogue is a stream of affirmations. We are continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts and this flow of affirmations is creating our life experience in every moment.

The word ‘affirmation’ implies a positive, a nod of approval; however, when we have the little voice in the head, which constantly tells us that ‘we can’t do something’, it becomes a negative affirmation. So it is still a nod to your subconscious mind except it is a nod of disapproval. For example, you tell yourself it’s not going to work out, and it doesn’t so you now have affirmation that it will never work. Those who have read ‘the secret’ will know that a supposedly positive affirmation, which has the words ‘don’t, can’t, won’t’, will necessarily fail.

Now, you might say ‘but I’m saying it positively but it still wont work’. In which case try and figure out what you are thinking or visualising while saying it. If you are saying ‘I’m confident’ and have images of people throwing tomatoes at you…you know why it’s not working 😉

Affirmations work because affirmations actually reprogram your thought patterns, they change the way you think and feel about things, and because you have replaced dysfunctional beliefs with your own new positive beliefs, positive change comes easily and naturally. For example, a lot of us are brought up believing too much money is bad, so if we believe it’s bad for us, how will we ever be super rich? Which is why money always goes to money and your income tends to be the average of the incomes of the ten people with whom you associate yourself the most. And which is why your parents always encouraged you to hang out with ‘good people’.

How do they work?

The science behind it is that if you say something (or write it) 21 times a day for 21 days it creates a neurological pathway in your brain and therefore becomes a belief.

Writing it, some believe, is even more powerful as it is literally a physical link (motor skills & brain). Which is how graphology works as well and how changing a signature can miraculously turn life around.

The metaphysics of it is that you are sending out positive energy to the universe and because what goes around comes around, you are getting amplified positive energy back. In effect you are are manifesting your wishes or desires constantly.

How to make them work for you?

  • Use the present tense. Do not use the future tense. If you say, “I will be rich”, your being rich will forever be in the future! The subconscious mind tries to literally bring about what it is asked to do. Hence say “I am rich” or “I choose to be rich”. According to some psychologists, the term “choose” is better as then, being rich becomes your choice. And anyway, isn’t it true that your present life is the result of the choices you have made in the past?
  • Be POSITIVE. Only positive statements work. It seems the subconscious mind is incapable of dealing in negatives. So, if you say “I am not fat”, then when the statement reaches the subconscious mind, the term “not” is ignored and it becomes “I am fat”!
  • Affirmations can either be spoken or be written down. When speaking, repeat them emphatically, preferably throughout the day. The least you can do is repeat them at least 21 times in the evening just before you go to sleep. Another great way is to write them down at least 21 times daily. Writing is a faster way of impressing your subconscious mind.
  • Repetition. In order to bring about significant changes in your life, affirmations have to be done several times a day till such time that they become a reality. If you do them for a few days only, the expected results may not come. Be bull doggish about them, i.e. continue doing them till your goals are accomplished. The story is told of two neighboring villages A and B, which always faced water shortage. Village A then learnt of a rain dance which they performed and duly received rains. Seeing this, village B also performed the rain dance but did not get any rains. They did this several times but still no rains. Ultimately, the chief of village B approached the chief of village A and asked “we’ve done the rain dance for 10 days and still no rain. How long do you do it for?”. The chief of village A replied, “We do the rain dance till we get the rains.” Ditto for affirmations. Do them till you get your desired results.

How to enhance their power? 

  • Visualize: When saying an affirmation, visualize it happening. If it is about confidence, then visualize people telling you ‘well done’ or getting an award. If it about being slimmer, then visualize yourself thinner.
  • Use crystals: read about the beautiful energy of the crystals, coming up soon. Hold the crystal in your hand or place it on your body while saying the affirmations.
  • Get a Chakra reading to get to the right affirmation. Usually the right one is really tough to say but it usually is the life changing one.

Also see Mind your Language

Mind your Language


I recently heard about the aye-sayers. These are people who always say yes or rather all words they use are affirmations.  I was going to write ‘never say no’ but that would be the opposite of that philosophy. And as I’m framing the words for the post, it is something I will be getting better at, very soon. Phew!!

The belief is that positive words create positive energy. Positive words keep your mind positive and keeps people around you positive and that creates a nice fat bubble of positivity that floats about making everyone feel good.

It is really interesting to observe and to be aware of the words you use most often. If you use words like ‘little’, ‘a bit’, ‘small’, ‘tiny’ a lot in your daily speak, you should check out your views on abundance. Likely, you think less is good enough for you. I use words like ‘alien’, ‘different planet’ and that keeps me separated from the people I love. I am working on replacing them currently.

Back to positivity. So I did try for many days to follow the aye-sayer path. I met with moderate success. Firstly, I kept forgetting and then I mostly ran out of words. So this is what’s working for me –

1st few days – drop the words hate, dislike, loathe, and their variations. If the sentence has these words, it probably doesn’t need to be said at all.  Already major positive energy is filling the space these left behind.

Next few days – Observe the no’s in a sentence, and try to replace with a yes. I do say ‘no worries’ a lot, I am attempting to say ‘all is well’ or ‘it’s all good’ instead. And if I keep saying ‘all is well’ or ‘all is brilliant’ – it is, isn’t it!! It’s like saying an affirmation all the time, and we know that they work 🙂

Next few days (and it’s important to keep the momentum!), Now observe and check the words you use most often. See what significance they have in your life. Change it to what you would want in your life.  So ‘a bit’ becomes ‘a lot’ and you start attracting abundance. Just make sure it’s ‘a lot’ of the positive stuff.

By now it should become a habit and it’s all sunshine and rainbows 🙂

Also see The Science of Affirmations 

Manifestation, Free will and Divine design

Having grown up on the concepts of karma and destiny, I have had great faith in fate – whatever is meant to be is meant to be but then I have also had great faith in us being the creators of our destiny. And frankly the two beliefs co-exited within me in perfect harmony. It’s only when I stopped to think did it occur to me that two, by rights, shouldn’t co-exist.

The new belief that triggered the thinking was that we are god. Controversial yes? I was a bit circumspect about it as well and it felt a bit egotistic to even say the statement out loud. But when you think about the ‘creators of our destiny’ bit and expand the concept to each of being the creator of out own reality then it makes sense. So yes, we are gods creation and have a teeny tiny bit of gods energy and that itself is good enough to call ourselves god but it is much more than that.

If we have free will (which we do!) then we are the ultimate manifestors…so by being creators of our own reality we are god to ourselves. Which is a pretty powerful thought really and we all do believe it hence the popularity of ‘the matrix’. Taking this further into the matrix – we create our own matrix and then we start living in it, having forgotten or buried deep within ourselves that we created it and the keys to the exit are with us.

At some point we decided to experience all that we are experiencing in life. Then we get caught up in the experience and instead of learning from it so we can move on, we start creating spirals and patterns of the same experience. There is however a plan with milestones that we had chalked out for ourselves and as we deviate from the plan we get hit over and over again so we get back on track.

The question is of course – which parts are our manifestation and which parts are design? There is no simple answer and as with everything metaphysical you have to look within. If you are at peace no matter what you are going through then it’s divine design. There is a certain sense of acceptance and a sense of knowing, as if you know all long. All the angst comes from deviating from the path and recreating the pattern over and over again. if you see yourself recreating the pattern then you need to learn something from it. And once you do then you move on to the next chapter and the next lesson.rassouli-03-09-scentoflove

Some patterns are easy to break; it takes little or no time. These are the ones we picked up on the way or while deviating from the path, or are remnants of learnt lessons. For the big ones, it’s the onion peel process. It will probably take a long time. But each time it gets easier, you deal with it better and you can see through the matrix of illusion.

To break the cycle of negative manifestation, try this simple 3 step process.
First is awareness – the signs are all around us, we just need to stop and read them. It could be a pattern in our lives, it could be our body trying to speak to us, so examine recurring physical ailments or discomfort, it could be a relationship or a situation which is unresolved. Looking within is an amazing thing but you can look outside around you because you are creating outside what is within. Sometimes just by being aware resolves the issue.
Once you have awareness of the issue, the second step is to look within for the answers. What is it that you could do differently that would resolve the issue – here it is all about you because remember you have created your reality, so a cheating husband or and obsessive mother are all your creations. Figure out how you feel at the core. For e.g., it could be feeling unloved or feeling unworthy of love – both are about love but will lead to different answers and solutions.

And lastly, make your free will choice to not feel that way anymore. Some of the DIY tools you can use are Affirmations (Louise Hay and Lise Bourbeau), Mantras (Thomas Ashley Farrand), Crystals (Judy Hall) or even guided meditation (Kelly Howell).

Some of the sites I enjoy…. (Lise Bourbeau)

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