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The Weight-Loss Chronicles 6 – Open Up

If you are the body type that tends to first put on weight in the shoulders and ribs, you are really blessed because you are made to protect and take care of people. However, in the taking care of people, if you forget to take care of yourself then the trouble arises.

I love the example of the oxygen mask in airplanes. They clearly explain how you cannot save anybody, if you don’t save yourself first. And it is quite tempting to be the go-to person for everybody but sooner or later you will run out of juice.
A big part of having bulky shoulders is taking on a load, a load which is too heavy for you to carry, which is why the shoulders need to bulk up. Think about all the burdens and responsibilities you carry? Are they really yours? Do you feel like you always end up doing more than your share? Do you feel if you don’t, then who will? Well, if you think and feel all of this – STOP NOW!
Let go of the need to carry around all this weight. Do only as much as you really want to and not even a little extra.
A great visualization is literally holding out your hands like you are letting go. And then visualize all the burdens you have placed on yourself leaving you through the palms of your hands. Try this in the shower if possible and use the sensation of water flowing out through your hands. If you are unable to visualize, just say the words of release.
50% of change happens when your are aware of your thoughts and feelings and the patterns they surround you with. Once you see through the illusion of the pattern, you will become more and more aware. Aware that all the expectations are actually from your side. You tend to do more than what is expected and that people become accustomed to you doing more than your share or carrying more than your load. Begin by examining your feelings before throwing yourself into the fray. Is is something you really want to do? Will it give you joy doing it? Not the self sacrificing kind of joy. Not the feeling of accomplishment type of joy. But the joy you feel when you do something you love. Be honest with yourself. Even if you choose to do it because of an obligation, it’s fine, just acknowledge your feelings. It will go a long way in toning down those shoulders.
The flip side of the burden is not feeling supported enough. And that’s the upper back and ribcage padding up to support you. Makes you think doesn’t it. So you like taking on stuff, carry it around and then feel unsupported! Here’s when you start to let people in. Choose to put your feet up once in a while and allow people to support you. Don’t wait for a time when you actually need the support. Do this tomorrow if you can. Plan for it, tell everyone around you that it’s your day off. Lie in bed, read, go for a massage, just take some time out for yourself. This is about taking care of yourself first. And the best part is that after this, you will genuinely feel like doing something for other people.
A large chest usually means a large-hearted person. And the capacity for this person to love others is really amazing. This person however needs to work a lot in the self-love department. A lot of fat in the chest means a lot of protection to the heart. A tendency to be hurt easily, a tendency to not believe that people can and do love them. And going back to start, they don’t believe that they are loved because they don’t love themselves. They are so occupied in giving that they forget to receive.
Our hands represent the giving and receiving aspects of us. And stretched out connect to the heart. There is somewhat of a controversy on which is the giving hand and which the receiving hand. Nonetheless, you can’t give without receiving and you cannot receive without giving. It is erroneously believed by us that the giving and receiving should be done to the same person i.e. we try and give back to the person we receive from. It doesn’t matter who receives from you and who gives to you. The only thing that matters is that we receive as much as we give, the universe takes care of the balance at the macro level.
Some amazing affirmations to work with are –
I open my heart to love. Love flows within me, around me, without me.
I am ready to give and receive (love).
I allow myself to be fully supported. All of life supports me.
I feel light. I feel free.
The beautiful Rose Quartz is the crystal to wear. There is something so special about this crystal – I feel like I become a little more attractive when I wear it 🙂
The emerald is another stone that works brilliantly.
Do remember that in none of the chapters are we talking about really thin people. The posts are all about being in the body weight we are meant to be in. And sometimes it’s not about the gross weight but what you see when you look in the mirror. As long as you are happy with what you see, you’re fine!
A few things you can do if you feel like it  –
Be kind to people. Starting with yourself. Say one kind thing to yourself everyday. And one kind thing to another person – friend, relative or even a complete stranger.
Look with the eyes of love and appreciation. Starting with the mirror and extending to other people. Focus on the good things.
Compliment people, even if you think they are looking fat, even if it’s fake to start with. Sooner or later you will mean it. Oh and don’t forget to tell the mirror how gorgeous you are.

The Weight-Loss Chronicles 5 – Tummy Trouble

The overall weight-loss story is a Solar Plexus chakra story. Remember when we talked about fight vs flight and its impact on weight. The fight is when we feel a loss of control or start resisting something. This chakra is all about Power, Control, Will, Self Worth & Ego. The ‘controlling’ of weight as it were, therefore, belongs to this Chakra. The Solar Plexus is the band above the navel and below the heart.

The thing with the tummy is that it is partly the Solar and partly the Sacral and it is difficult to talk about one without the other. The ‘key’ is actually the Solar Plexus, as it has a part to play in the overall weight story. The connections happen when we start talking about a sweet tooth and about our lust for Chocolate. A Chocolate obsession, in my book, puts you in the Sacral category and an overall sweet tooth is the Solar.

There is an interesting story on Diabetes as well. The connection with the organs makes it both a Solar and Sacral story. If you have Diabetes, try and figure out when you discovered you had it. Chances are that it was the point when good things started happening to you. Diabetes is literally ‘inability to process sweet’ and if you take that thought forward to life…it’s the inability to process the sweetness of life. So, actually diabetes happens when life becomes sweet (after much hardship or lack) and the body-mind-spirit has forgotten how to handle it. A great affirmation is ‘I’m ready to enjoy the sweetness of life’. Please note that you should not stop medication but do go for regular tests to see if there is improvement.

Anyways, back to the Solar Plexus Chakra. Now think about all of the associated words and their context to weight. Willpower to not eat that cake? Fat and worthless? Binge eating or out of control eating? You get my drift right? And it is really easy to break it down for yourself. Take Power to start with. When do you feel powerless? Helpless? Is that when you start eating? Now the powerlessness could be related to a security issue you have and you may end up putting on weight on your butt, however, the trigger to binge will be activated at the Solar level.

If you start putting on weight at the tummy first. Or basically are apple-shaped, then it’s a solar story with you. And it’s important to note if it’s below navel or above navel. Below is a Sacral Chakra story. If you simply put on weight evenly across your body, that is a Solar story as well.

Think about the situations / instances that made you start putting on weight or makes you put on more weight. Think about the triggers. Even if you feel that it’s physical. So you had a week long party or were on holiday, just get in touch with the emotions you felt. A holiday is meant to relax us, but in truth, we think about our work, colleagues, and all the insecurities pour in, and we put on weight. Stress eating is a complete Solar story.

Going back to the words. The Solar Plexus is distressed when you feel Powerless or Helpless. When you feel Out of Control, or when situations look Out of Control. When you feel less Worthy or not good enough.

What is interesting is that most of the words associated with the Solar can be considered external or in relation to others. But are actually very very internal. All issues of worthiness are always internal. And the external is just mirror for how we feel internally. And a lot of times it really is internal because when you check with the person who supposedly put you down, you will realize that the person meant something entirely different from what you understood.

Self worth is an interesting story and I feel I’m rambling now, so I’ll try and put it down in bullet points 🙂

– If you exist, you are worthy! Like the butterfly effect, only the divine knows what your purpose is and by existing you are meeting your purpose. There is no need for anything more – so just do what makes you happy.

– Don’t define yourself by what you Do but by who you are. And remember that you are perfect as you are.

– Be happy with who you are. Stop berating yourself over shoulds and musts. Believe yourself worthy of saying Yes to yourself (even if it means saying no to others)

– Try not to compare yourself to other people. You will never know their full story.

The control story is all about trust. You know the over-controlling boss has trust issues! When you feel that things are not in control, take a deep long breath and say ‘I choose to trust’. Even when things look bleak, just trust that the storm is simply leading you to the rainbow. A great affirmation for the Solar plexus is ‘I flow with the flow of life’ or ‘I surrender to the will of the universe’ (I love love  the second one – makes me feel like I’m dissolving into the universal energy).

Another aspect of control is letting go. You know where this is headed right? So, constipation – and therefore holding on to weight. Try ‘I let go and I let flow’.

The last aspect is power. And this about examining the definition of power and the reasons you feel powerless. Being true to yourself is the most powerful thing in the world. Do check an earlier post on power  – ode to shakti. 

I love the Citrine – it’s is a great crystal to work with the Solar Plexus. I even use it to aid digestion after an overly indulgent meal 😉

The Weight-Loss Chronicles 4, The Weight-Loss Chronicles 3, The Weight-Loss Chronicles 2, The Weight-Loss Chronicles 1.


The Weight-Loss Chronicles 4: Chocolate & the Sacral Chakra

In between the belly button and the tailbone is the Sacral chakra. If you are a belly weight gainer, figure out if it is below the naval or above. If you get the little belly below you have a Sacral story going on with you.

Chances are that you like chocolate – a lot! If you have a sweet tooth and any sweet will do and you don’t like chocolate much then wait for the next chapter on the Solar Plexus 🙂

The Sacral chakra is about Creativity and Creation, Sex and Sexuality, Fertility, Joy, Pleasure & Abundance. Think about these words and see where you find the lack or the struggle. It is possible that Creativity flows though you but Joy alludes you.

Scientists have proven that when we eat chocolate it releases the pleasure hormones in our brain. If our word is lacking in pleasure, we crave chocolate because our natural or ideal state of being is about being happy, creating and about pleasure. Pleasure itself has an offshoot of pleasing – are you pleasing yourself enough? Or are you constantly putting all your efforts in pleasing others?

None of this means that chocolate is bad. Chocolate is great because it is giving your body what it needs. But wouldn’t it be amazing that your mental and emotional state was so full of pleasure that you would not need that much chocolate. Please don’t force yourself to stop, it will happen on its own as the chakra corrects itself.

The chocolate connection is an indicator that the sacral needs correction. The other indicator is the weight gain in the lower belly area. Simple affirmations are a great way to start and so is wearing crystals. Incidentally, the other thing that releases the happy hormones is exercise 🙂 No escaping that no matter what chakra you work on. Do a little walking, try a minute of running, if you couple that with some affirmations the results will be quite phenomenal.

The Carnelian is the best sacral chakra healing stone. I have noticed that it takes me a little while to get accustomed to the stone (yes, the sacral is my story 🙂 ) so I start by wearing it for an hour or so and slowly build it up to the full day.

Other crystals that benefit the sacral are moonstones and mother of pearl and rubies. Rubies I find the easiest to wear actually. And I prefer the tumbled version to the faceted Jewelry kind. Rule of thumb is that if the crystal is orange in colour it will work on the sacral chakra. Wearing the various shades of orange helps as well. You just realized that you really like the colour orange right?! That’s your body telling you your needs:)

Here’s a set of affirmations that work well for the sacral –

1. I am open to receiving the pleasures in life / I’m open to joy / I’m ready to let happiness into my life

2. Life is easy, life is fun, oh what joy to be under the sun

3. Creativity flows through me, in and around me

4. I love being a woman/man. It is joyous being a woman/man.

See which one resonates with you the most and go with that. 21 times for 21 days or longer.

Do remember to cleanse your crystals and activate them.

The Weight-Loss Chronicles Chapter 1, 2, 3

See what scientists have to say about chocolate and the brain –

I quite enjoyed this post on the sacral chakra –

The Weight-Loss Chronicles 3 – Base Chakra & Weight

Now that you have reassured your body that you are safe, it’s time to identify where exactly the fear lies. The simplest and most effective way is to figure out where you start putting on weight. Is it your thighs? Is it your stomach? Or your lower belly?

Lets take this chakra by chakra, starting with the base chakra or the root chakra

Legs, thighs, hips

If your tendency is to start putting on weight here or that this is the only place you put on weight, this is where your body and mind think you need most protection.

The base chakra is a materialistic, physical chakra. It is about the basic necessities of life. It is about how safe you feel, how secure you feel. It is not about whether you have or have not, but about how you feel about it. So you can have plenty but if you feel insecure about it, it causes the body to layer up.

Most people with base chakra blocks will come across as rather materialistic. But if you scratch the surface, you’ll see that they are just using physical things (and that includes money) to just feel safe.

And it still could be about love or money or any of the other chakra issues, as long as the emotion is about feeling fear or insecurity. If love makes you scared – you would fight or flight. So small hips and skinny legs run away from intimacy and the broad hips fight it.

Same with money – if money means power to you then we’re talking about the Solar Plexus chakra and not the Root chakra. If money means safety and security then we’re talking about the Root chakra.

A lot of the Root chakra issues actually relate to finances, because money pays our rent and buys us food. But the issue is not actually money or lack thereof, it’s the insecurity for what money can or can’t buy.

And it is how rich people can be fat around the base as well. Think about how insecure you would feel if you had a million bucks lying around in the house, you would be paranoid right? It’s contradictory but the less you have the less insecure you feel. Think about it. If your bag was full of cash, you would constantly keep an eye on it but if it had almost nothing, you would just toss it anywhere.

SO – the action to take is

1. Understand yourself : Figure out what you fear or what makes you feel unsafe or insecure. See if you feel overly dependent on things and maybe even hoard things.

Thighs usually mean attachment and intimacy. So, do you fear attachment with people? It not only mean a partner but could be friends or even family. Somewhere in the past you were hurt and now you are afraid to open up to people. A good affirmation is ‘It is safe for me to form attachments. It is safe for me to be intimate with so and so’.

Hips are about dependency. If you fear being dependent on people or alternately feel that too many people are dependent on you. Again this is about resisting it and fearing it because you have been hurt by it in the past, which is why your body is protecting you. Affirmation – It is safe for me to depend on people or a specific person.

Shins and Calves are about cushioning. And Ankles are about Support. But one doesn’t actually start putting on weight from there 🙂

Another way of figuring out what you fear is to see what the weight in that particular area prevents you from doing. And then do it – it’s a sure way to get over the fear :). Can’t wear that Bikini? – just go ahead and wear one!!

2. Do some affirmations : Once you have figured it out usually an affirmation which starts with ‘It is safe for me to…’ should be a good start.

If you don’t want to or can’t figure it out, a generic ‘I am safe, I am secure, I am protected’ is a great affirmation.

3. Add lots of Reds, Browns and Blacks to your wardrobe. Especially the bottoms. Should be easy enough to do and all of them are slimming colours!

4. Try carrying some crystals in your pocket or even wearing it around your neck. For material fears try the Red Jasper. For safety, try a tourmaline or a black onyx. For fears of health it’s a moss agate.

5. Try to walk barefoot on the grass atleast once a day. If not, walk barefoot in your apartment but visualize it is the ground.

And go for a walk or go for a run 😉

One last thing. Sometimes when we try to change something that has been part of us for a long long time, there is backlash. Its just your energy which is not used to the new you. But don’t give up, it’s just testing you to see if you know what you’re doing.  So you wear the Bikini and someone laughs at you or calls you overweight – don’t worry, just do your affirmations. Remember that your body and mind believes that you will be hurt and creates that situation for you. Just continue on and sooner than later it will accept the new you.

A short note  about the Chakras

Chapter 1 of the Weight Loss Chronicles

Chapter 2 of the Weight Loss Chronicles

The Weight-Loss Chronicles: Chapter 2 – Thank your Fat


In chapter one, we discussed the reason for weight – fat and thin. Now with that perspective, take a step back and see why does fat exist in our bodies. (And no, it’s not there to torture you:) ) Quite the opposite actually. It’s there to protect you. You know that sea mammals have this really dense layer of fat which protects them from the cold water. The key word here is protection – our fat exists because it believes that it is protecting us.
All the little hurts and the big ones – emotional not physical – makes the mind want to protect itself and as the body is the physical manifestation of the mind, that’s where the fat shows up.
This doesn’t mean that thin people don’t get hurt, it just means that their response is to run from the emotion. The people who fight the emotion layer up on the fat for protection.
So when you are feeling vulnerable or unprotected your body starts putting up it’s protection. The first thing to do is affirm to your mind and body that you are safe. A lovely affirmation is –
‘I am safe. I am secure. I am protected’
All the better if you can visualize your safe place while doing the affirmation.
The second exercise to do especially while getting into bed is to talk to your fat. Place your hands on your solar plexus and start by thanking your fat, thanking your body, for being so considerate to you. Mind you – this is love talk so no abuses, rudeness or sarcasm. You body knows when you are being genuine. So talk to your body as you would talk to a 2 yr old.
Thank it for protecting you and keeping you safe. But also let your body know that you are alright now and you don’t need the protection anymore. That it is alright for the fat to melt away now. Use your own words, just make sure they are soft, loving, positive words.
Affirmations work best when done for 21 days, with a minimum of 21 times. I mostly do them through the day.
Go on try it till the next chapter on the Chakras & Weight


The Weight Loss Chronicles Chapter 1: The metaphysics of weight

quote3webThis is a story that needs to be told in parts. The initial post is about the metaphysics of weight gain (and loss) at the macro level, the next part will go into different body types, then further on to body parts, then on to the food we eat and why we eat what we eat. Maybe not necessarily in that order but I will start with the big picture first.

For those seeking a big weight loss in 20 seconds – this is not the post you want to follow 🙂

This post is to understand the why of weight gain, get some tips and simple suggestions to start the process. The desired outcome of these posts is to either shed some weight or simply be happy with the shape you are. And the amazing bit about being the latter is that the former actually happens.

Weight is an interesting story in the metaphysical context. It goes way way back into our basic instincts. We are born with two basic instincts – fight or flight! Both are survival instincts, when faced with any danger or threat one of the instincts takes over for us to survive. When threatened we are designed to do whatever it takes to survive, to live. Neither is good or bad – whichever works for us to live is perfect.

In the civilized world, these instincts manifest for situations that make us feel threatened – hurt, afraid, concerned, worried, angry. As survival is taken for granted, the instinct kicks in when we feel any of these emotions.

How we look at the two words – flight and fight – actually defines us. I always felt that the word ‘flight’ had a negative connotation to it and you guessed it – I’m a fighter all right (or Was)! Now ask my husband and he’ll tell you ‘don’t fight, it’s not good’, that’s because he has negative associations with the word fight.

SO, the first question is – are you a fighter or a flighter?

What does it take to be a fighter? A strong, solid body right? Something that can withstand attack. And what does it take to be a flighter? Supple legs and nimble feet? You know what I’m building up to right?

Our metabolism takes its cues from here… if you are essentially a fighter, then you need to be pretty solid to hold your ground and you need the weight. If you are a flighter then you need to be light and nimble on your feet.

And yes, I do the battle with weight and he is a marathon runner 😉

Another way of identifying if you are a fighter or a flighter is to watch the words you use. Do you say I’m fighting to get this done or batting the urge to …and so on.

Here’s the first tip – if you are a fighter, love and accept it. Anything that makes you survive remember.

The second question is who or what are you fighting? Authority? Injustice? Yourself? Your nature? We are taught at an early age to fight for all this and more. Gandhi talked about ‘turning the other cheek’ and look how skinny he was!

Jokes aside, here’s the first few steps to take immediately –

1. Identify what you are fighting. And why.

2. Reduce the number of fights you have. If you are fighting the clock, relax and choose to be late. If you are fighting the urge to eat the cheesecake, relax and give in to it. If you tend to fight with people, choose to walk away.

3. Stop using the word fight and it’s variants. Start using active words like ‘lemme run and do this..’.

4. Be active. All the metaphysics in the world won’t make you thin if you are a couch potato…you have to get up and get moving. It will help you get moving though and speed up the process of shedding the unnecessary fat.

The big question is – will this spiritual healing help me lose weight? And if not, then why should I try it? The simple answer is that as you heal your barriers to weight-loss you will find yourself motivated to be more active or to eat the right things. The magic is in dissolving the barriers to a healthy you.

Next up: Thank your fat


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