Met a lovely girl recently and she shared this practice that she does (or tries to) every night.
At the end of each day, surrender all your actions to Krishna. Good ones, bad ones, things you din’t do, things you should’ve, things you could’ve. Just offer them all to Krishna.
And the next day start with a clean slate.
No owing people, no making up for your misdeeds, no guilt, no recriminations. Every night give it up and every morning start anew.
We are so caught up in the past and the future baggage that we completely miss the today. All that we owe people, all that people owe us. All the things we should do because they are expected from us. And our expectations from others. If it can happen in those 24 hrs do it. If not, let Krishna do the balancing.
If every day starts with no one to owe and nothing to balance out, how liberating would that be.
All the deeds of the previous day – good, bad, ugly – forget them at the end of the day. And it’s not just the dropping of the guilt for all your misdeeds. It is also the basking in the glory of your good deeds. Bask away – but just for a day. Because tomorrow the slate will be clean.
The flip side to you not owing anything to anybody is that nobody owes you either. And think about what you would do, how you would behave, what you would not do, if you were not collecting goodwill or IOUs from others. And see how you start taking precedence over everything else!
Try it for a month and see how it changes you and the world around you.