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Words of Power – The Science of Affirmations

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What are affirmations?

Affirmations are positive statements designed to combat negative thinking. Seemingly simple, overtime they can help you make fairly profound changes in your attitude. Consciously or subconsciously, we use them all the time. Like when we tell ourselves, ‘I am confident’ repeatedly, before stepping on to a stage or when we start praying for our team to win in a match. All of our self-talk or inner dialogue is a stream of affirmations. We are continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts and this flow of affirmations is creating our life experience in every moment.

The word ‘affirmation’ implies a positive, a nod of approval; however, when we have the little voice in the head, which constantly tells us that ‘we can’t do something’, it becomes a negative affirmation. So it is still a nod to your subconscious mind except it is a nod of disapproval. For example, you tell yourself it’s not going to work out, and it doesn’t so you now have affirmation that it will never work. Those who have read ‘the secret’ will know that a supposedly positive affirmation, which has the words ‘don’t, can’t, won’t’, will necessarily fail.

Now, you might say ‘but I’m saying it positively but it still wont work’. In which case try and figure out what you are thinking or visualising while saying it. If you are saying ‘I’m confident’ and have images of people throwing tomatoes at you…you know why it’s not working 😉

Affirmations work because affirmations actually reprogram your thought patterns, they change the way you think and feel about things, and because you have replaced dysfunctional beliefs with your own new positive beliefs, positive change comes easily and naturally. For example, a lot of us are brought up believing too much money is bad, so if we believe it’s bad for us, how will we ever be super rich? Which is why money always goes to money and your income tends to be the average of the incomes of the ten people with whom you associate yourself the most. And which is why your parents always encouraged you to hang out with ‘good people’.

How do they work?

The science behind it is that if you say something (or write it) 21 times a day for 21 days it creates a neurological pathway in your brain and therefore becomes a belief.

Writing it, some believe, is even more powerful as it is literally a physical link (motor skills & brain). Which is how graphology works as well and how changing a signature can miraculously turn life around.

The metaphysics of it is that you are sending out positive energy to the universe and because what goes around comes around, you are getting amplified positive energy back. In effect you are are manifesting your wishes or desires constantly.

How to make them work for you?

  • Use the present tense. Do not use the future tense. If you say, “I will be rich”, your being rich will forever be in the future! The subconscious mind tries to literally bring about what it is asked to do. Hence say “I am rich” or “I choose to be rich”. According to some psychologists, the term “choose” is better as then, being rich becomes your choice. And anyway, isn’t it true that your present life is the result of the choices you have made in the past?
  • Be POSITIVE. Only positive statements work. It seems the subconscious mind is incapable of dealing in negatives. So, if you say “I am not fat”, then when the statement reaches the subconscious mind, the term “not” is ignored and it becomes “I am fat”!
  • Affirmations can either be spoken or be written down. When speaking, repeat them emphatically, preferably throughout the day. The least you can do is repeat them at least 21 times in the evening just before you go to sleep. Another great way is to write them down at least 21 times daily. Writing is a faster way of impressing your subconscious mind.
  • Repetition. In order to bring about significant changes in your life, affirmations have to be done several times a day till such time that they become a reality. If you do them for a few days only, the expected results may not come. Be bull doggish about them, i.e. continue doing them till your goals are accomplished. The story is told of two neighboring villages A and B, which always faced water shortage. Village A then learnt of a rain dance which they performed and duly received rains. Seeing this, village B also performed the rain dance but did not get any rains. They did this several times but still no rains. Ultimately, the chief of village B approached the chief of village A and asked “we’ve done the rain dance for 10 days and still no rain. How long do you do it for?”. The chief of village A replied, “We do the rain dance till we get the rains.” Ditto for affirmations. Do them till you get your desired results.

How to enhance their power? 

  • Visualize: When saying an affirmation, visualize it happening. If it is about confidence, then visualize people telling you ‘well done’ or getting an award. If it about being slimmer, then visualize yourself thinner.
  • Use crystals: read about the beautiful energy of the crystals, coming up soon. Hold the crystal in your hand or place it on your body while saying the affirmations.
  • Get a Chakra reading to get to the right affirmation. Usually the right one is really tough to say but it usually is the life changing one.

Also see Mind your Language

The Weight-Loss Chronicles 3 – Base Chakra & Weight

Now that you have reassured your body that you are safe, it’s time to identify where exactly the fear lies. The simplest and most effective way is to figure out where you start putting on weight. Is it your thighs? Is it your stomach? Or your lower belly?

Lets take this chakra by chakra, starting with the base chakra or the root chakra

Legs, thighs, hips

If your tendency is to start putting on weight here or that this is the only place you put on weight, this is where your body and mind think you need most protection.

The base chakra is a materialistic, physical chakra. It is about the basic necessities of life. It is about how safe you feel, how secure you feel. It is not about whether you have or have not, but about how you feel about it. So you can have plenty but if you feel insecure about it, it causes the body to layer up.

Most people with base chakra blocks will come across as rather materialistic. But if you scratch the surface, you’ll see that they are just using physical things (and that includes money) to just feel safe.

And it still could be about love or money or any of the other chakra issues, as long as the emotion is about feeling fear or insecurity. If love makes you scared – you would fight or flight. So small hips and skinny legs run away from intimacy and the broad hips fight it.

Same with money – if money means power to you then we’re talking about the Solar Plexus chakra and not the Root chakra. If money means safety and security then we’re talking about the Root chakra.

A lot of the Root chakra issues actually relate to finances, because money pays our rent and buys us food. But the issue is not actually money or lack thereof, it’s the insecurity for what money can or can’t buy.

And it is how rich people can be fat around the base as well. Think about how insecure you would feel if you had a million bucks lying around in the house, you would be paranoid right? It’s contradictory but the less you have the less insecure you feel. Think about it. If your bag was full of cash, you would constantly keep an eye on it but if it had almost nothing, you would just toss it anywhere.

SO – the action to take is

1. Understand yourself : Figure out what you fear or what makes you feel unsafe or insecure. See if you feel overly dependent on things and maybe even hoard things.

Thighs usually mean attachment and intimacy. So, do you fear attachment with people? It not only mean a partner but could be friends or even family. Somewhere in the past you were hurt and now you are afraid to open up to people. A good affirmation is ‘It is safe for me to form attachments. It is safe for me to be intimate with so and so’.

Hips are about dependency. If you fear being dependent on people or alternately feel that too many people are dependent on you. Again this is about resisting it and fearing it because you have been hurt by it in the past, which is why your body is protecting you. Affirmation – It is safe for me to depend on people or a specific person.

Shins and Calves are about cushioning. And Ankles are about Support. But one doesn’t actually start putting on weight from there 🙂

Another way of figuring out what you fear is to see what the weight in that particular area prevents you from doing. And then do it – it’s a sure way to get over the fear :). Can’t wear that Bikini? – just go ahead and wear one!!

2. Do some affirmations : Once you have figured it out usually an affirmation which starts with ‘It is safe for me to…’ should be a good start.

If you don’t want to or can’t figure it out, a generic ‘I am safe, I am secure, I am protected’ is a great affirmation.

3. Add lots of Reds, Browns and Blacks to your wardrobe. Especially the bottoms. Should be easy enough to do and all of them are slimming colours!

4. Try carrying some crystals in your pocket or even wearing it around your neck. For material fears try the Red Jasper. For safety, try a tourmaline or a black onyx. For fears of health it’s a moss agate.

5. Try to walk barefoot on the grass atleast once a day. If not, walk barefoot in your apartment but visualize it is the ground.

And go for a walk or go for a run 😉

One last thing. Sometimes when we try to change something that has been part of us for a long long time, there is backlash. Its just your energy which is not used to the new you. But don’t give up, it’s just testing you to see if you know what you’re doing.  So you wear the Bikini and someone laughs at you or calls you overweight – don’t worry, just do your affirmations. Remember that your body and mind believes that you will be hurt and creates that situation for you. Just continue on and sooner than later it will accept the new you.

A short note  about the Chakras

Chapter 1 of the Weight Loss Chronicles

Chapter 2 of the Weight Loss Chronicles

Chakra Basics

Started writing the next chapter of Weight Loss Chronicles and realized that it needs a note on the chakras first. One can write infinitely about the chakras and now looks like this post will go into the chapter format as well – what fun! :). This is the basic bit….love this image, it’s done by Pieter Weltevrede, love all of his art.


Located at the base of the spine this chakra represents our roots, our grounded-ness, our connection to the earth. Our basic survival needs and instincts reside here. The urge to fight or flight, the roof over our heads, all our material wants and desires.
At the physical level, when this chakra is not working to it’s optimal it affects the feet, legs, the base of the spine and the coccyx area. At the metaphysical level it’s malfunction can cause financial or material problems.
For enhancing well being of this chakra, wear the colours of the earth i.e. reds and browns. Use deep red earth crystals like the red jasper.

Our pleasure chakra, located above the root and below the navel. Joy, creativity and procreation emanate from this chakra. When it whirls freely we open ourselves to the pleasures of life, surround ourselves with beauty and enjoyment.
This chakra affects our sexual organs, the kidneys and the hips.
To allow joy into your life surround yourself with vibrant orange. Wear jewelry with carnelians.

Solar Plexus:
In between the navel and the heart is our solar plexus chakra. This is the seat of our power and control, confidence and self esteem (just think about the butterflies in your stomach before a presentation!)
Stress and lifestyle diseases hit us here. The stomach, liver, pancreas and middle vertebrae are affected by this chakra.
Bright happy yellow is the colour of this chakra and the effervescent citrine the crystal to balance it.

No points for guessing this one. Brimming with love, heartfelt thanks, heart going out to someone in pain – in the centre of the chest, this chakra is about love, compassion, gratitude and forgiveness.
It extends from the heart to the arms, right down to the hands.
Use pinks and greens to activate this chakra. The beautiful rose quartz is the perfect crystal for this chakra.

We use this chakra for expressing and communicating. It helps expressing love or creativity, communicating with confidence or kindness. It affects the throat, neck, esophagus, thyroid.
This chakra responds to pure blues. The aquamarine is a great crystal for this chakra.

Third Eye:
In between our brows is our third eye chakra, our minds eye. It is responsible for vision, insights strategy and their successful implementation. Balancing this chakra helps the eyes, ears, nose and the neurological system.
Use indigo for this chakra, the colour and energies of the lapis Lazuli

Just as the root is our connection to the earth, the crown is our connection to the divine. Faith and connectedness, in a higher power, in humanity and in yourself are the keywords here.
It is the existence chakra therefore relates to the pituitary gland and the central nervous system. When this chakra is in imbalance one feels frazzled and disconnected.
Violet or pure white are the colours of an enlightened being. Use a clear quartz or an amethyst to balance this chakra.


The Miracle of Ani Choying Drolma

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I recently had the great honour of being in the same space as Ani Choying Drolma. As I write the words ‘great honour’ I am aware that this is the first time I have ever used them, meaning it from the centre of my soul.

I have loved Ani’s music for some time now, and with all the best things,  I don’t know how she entered my life. She came for an small, intimate concert here and we went to hear her sing. I went to hear her amazing voice, I believe it comes down straight from the divine. What I got was so so much more than that.

Someone once told me that to be in the energy field of an enlightened being is something else entirely. The words made sense, this is why people want to go meet all the spiritual guru’s repeatedly. But to understand and to experience are two different things.

We were at the concert for about an hour. And it was amazing, the music was divine, she was as I would expect a Buddhist Nun to be. She talked some, about her issues with anger and hate as a child and how the path helped her. It was all quite fantastic and I went home quite happy.

The miracle of it was I woke happy the next day, and the next, and the next….for a full 5 days nothing could get the smile off my face. And I did get some bad news actually, but the smile stayed. And when I hear her or even when I think of her, the smile comes back on.

Just by being in her energy field, for an hour, did this. What people felt with Mary and Jesus, with Buddha and rest of the masters, how people feel with the Dalai Lama or with Adyashanti – all makes perfect sense now.

Two of my favourite mantras from her –

Of Vampires and other Beasties


The disclaimer to the post is that there is nothing I love more than a good paranormal romance, so this might be biased in their favour.

Ilona Andrews in the Kate Daniels series talks about how Gods get their power from the number of people who believe in them. Actually Kevin Hearne also mentions that in his series. And it is really interesting because this is part of the belief system of most spiritually inclined people – think it’s in Celestine Prophecy and a couple of other books as well.

The more you believe in something, the more true it becomes. God exists because of the faith we have in him (or her). And the devil exists also because of the belief we have in it’s existence. And that’s really interesting isn’t it. We are actually manifesting what we fear. And what’s funny is, when we talk about moving away from evil, we’re giving it more power by speaking about it.

Anyways, back to the topic…. What paranormal romance has done is make vampires and other beasties super sexy. And that’s taken the fear of them right out of the equation. So instead of the big scary monster, we have a brooding, sensitive, vegetarian vampire (who you want to jump), oh and did I mention yummy-yummy. Takes the scary right out of it doesn’t it.

And thanks to the books and the movies, we have many monsters less to fear.

And going a step further – in essence what they are telling us is, monsters are misunderstood, monsters are humans too, monsters have feelings too and all they need is love. Sounds familiar doesn’t it.

So when you are scared or fear someone or something, don’t be strong and don’t be brave. Just be kind. Just send out the love. And you’ll see the beastie for what it really is. And choose to keep the faith, not the fear.

Do check out my fav paranormal author(s), they also have a free web book which is quite awesome.

Mind your Language


I recently heard about the aye-sayers. These are people who always say yes or rather all words they use are affirmations.  I was going to write ‘never say no’ but that would be the opposite of that philosophy. And as I’m framing the words for the post, it is something I will be getting better at, very soon. Phew!!

The belief is that positive words create positive energy. Positive words keep your mind positive and keeps people around you positive and that creates a nice fat bubble of positivity that floats about making everyone feel good.

It is really interesting to observe and to be aware of the words you use most often. If you use words like ‘little’, ‘a bit’, ‘small’, ‘tiny’ a lot in your daily speak, you should check out your views on abundance. Likely, you think less is good enough for you. I use words like ‘alien’, ‘different planet’ and that keeps me separated from the people I love. I am working on replacing them currently.

Back to positivity. So I did try for many days to follow the aye-sayer path. I met with moderate success. Firstly, I kept forgetting and then I mostly ran out of words. So this is what’s working for me –

1st few days – drop the words hate, dislike, loathe, and their variations. If the sentence has these words, it probably doesn’t need to be said at all.  Already major positive energy is filling the space these left behind.

Next few days – Observe the no’s in a sentence, and try to replace with a yes. I do say ‘no worries’ a lot, I am attempting to say ‘all is well’ or ‘it’s all good’ instead. And if I keep saying ‘all is well’ or ‘all is brilliant’ – it is, isn’t it!! It’s like saying an affirmation all the time, and we know that they work 🙂

Next few days (and it’s important to keep the momentum!), Now observe and check the words you use most often. See what significance they have in your life. Change it to what you would want in your life.  So ‘a bit’ becomes ‘a lot’ and you start attracting abundance. Just make sure it’s ‘a lot’ of the positive stuff.

By now it should become a habit and it’s all sunshine and rainbows 🙂

Also see The Science of Affirmations 

Of love


at first there is only love
a moment of pure bliss
the first breath
the first look
at first there is only love

then is the quest for love
of wanting
of needing
of demanding
of doing
of proving

then is the acceptance of love

then there is only love
at last there is only love



Batman is actually Bruce Wayne, Spider-Man is actually Peter Parker. When that character wakes up in the morning, he’s Peter Parker. He has to put on a costume to become Spider-Man. And it is in that characteristic Superman stands alone.

Superman didn’t become Superman. Superman was born Superman. When Superman wakes up in the morning, he’s Superman. His alter ego is Clark Kent. His outfit with the big red “S”, that’s the blanket he was wrapped in as a baby when the Kents found him. Those are his clothes. What Kent wears – the glasses, the business suit – that’s the costume. And that’s how he see’s humans.

~ Kill Bill Vol. 2

We are all born Supermen and then we start adding the layers to ourselves, to appear normal, to be regular, to be non-supermen. Not because of others but because thats how we perceive ‘regular’ or ‘normal’ to be. We are all supermen (or women 🙂 ) inside, trying to be an abstract idea of what humans should be.

Drop the glasses, drop the suit, let the superman shine through!


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