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Like the blind men with the elephant we too only see aspects of each other, never the whole. When we judge we have to know that it is only a tiny part of the person that we are seeing. And vice versa – when someone says, ‘you are selfish’ or ‘you are not good enough’, they are only seeing the selfish part of you. There is a totally selfless part of you that someone else can see.
The thing is that we can never really see the whole – all we can do is trust that we are only seeing an aspect. And believe that the sum of our parts is perfectly balanced and finally deep inside we are exactly the same 


The Weight Loss Chronicles Chapter 1: The metaphysics of weight

quote3webThis is a story that needs to be told in parts. The initial post is about the metaphysics of weight gain (and loss) at the macro level, the next part will go into different body types, then further on to body parts, then on to the food we eat and why we eat what we eat. Maybe not necessarily in that order but I will start with the big picture first.

For those seeking a big weight loss in 20 seconds – this is not the post you want to follow 🙂

This post is to understand the why of weight gain, get some tips and simple suggestions to start the process. The desired outcome of these posts is to either shed some weight or simply be happy with the shape you are. And the amazing bit about being the latter is that the former actually happens.

Weight is an interesting story in the metaphysical context. It goes way way back into our basic instincts. We are born with two basic instincts – fight or flight! Both are survival instincts, when faced with any danger or threat one of the instincts takes over for us to survive. When threatened we are designed to do whatever it takes to survive, to live. Neither is good or bad – whichever works for us to live is perfect.

In the civilized world, these instincts manifest for situations that make us feel threatened – hurt, afraid, concerned, worried, angry. As survival is taken for granted, the instinct kicks in when we feel any of these emotions.

How we look at the two words – flight and fight – actually defines us. I always felt that the word ‘flight’ had a negative connotation to it and you guessed it – I’m a fighter all right (or Was)! Now ask my husband and he’ll tell you ‘don’t fight, it’s not good’, that’s because he has negative associations with the word fight.

SO, the first question is – are you a fighter or a flighter?

What does it take to be a fighter? A strong, solid body right? Something that can withstand attack. And what does it take to be a flighter? Supple legs and nimble feet? You know what I’m building up to right?

Our metabolism takes its cues from here… if you are essentially a fighter, then you need to be pretty solid to hold your ground and you need the weight. If you are a flighter then you need to be light and nimble on your feet.

And yes, I do the battle with weight and he is a marathon runner 😉

Another way of identifying if you are a fighter or a flighter is to watch the words you use. Do you say I’m fighting to get this done or batting the urge to …and so on.

Here’s the first tip – if you are a fighter, love and accept it. Anything that makes you survive remember.

The second question is who or what are you fighting? Authority? Injustice? Yourself? Your nature? We are taught at an early age to fight for all this and more. Gandhi talked about ‘turning the other cheek’ and look how skinny he was!

Jokes aside, here’s the first few steps to take immediately –

1. Identify what you are fighting. And why.

2. Reduce the number of fights you have. If you are fighting the clock, relax and choose to be late. If you are fighting the urge to eat the cheesecake, relax and give in to it. If you tend to fight with people, choose to walk away.

3. Stop using the word fight and it’s variants. Start using active words like ‘lemme run and do this..’.

4. Be active. All the metaphysics in the world won’t make you thin if you are a couch potato…you have to get up and get moving. It will help you get moving though and speed up the process of shedding the unnecessary fat.

The big question is – will this spiritual healing help me lose weight? And if not, then why should I try it? The simple answer is that as you heal your barriers to weight-loss you will find yourself motivated to be more active or to eat the right things. The magic is in dissolving the barriers to a healthy you.

Next up: Thank your fat
















who is your god they say?
it is enough to ponder over a millennia

did my god once walk the earth?
is my god the son of god?
is my god the prophet?
is my god the guru?

questions to ponder over a smoke or a joint

what does my god say?
is he a judge?
is he the jury?
is he a teacher?
is he a traveller?
is he a she?

questions to ponder with friends and strangers

is she kind?
is she wrathful?
is she sensual?
is she sublime?

questions to ponder on top a mountain

then the voice in my head says
i am who you want to me to be
i am in you
i am around you
where do you want me to be?
how do you want me to be?

questions that answer all the questions

so my god is a benevolent god
he is everything and he is nothing
he is within and without

he has no expectations from me
i am perfect in his eyes
he forgives me even before i have erred
he loves me because i have erred
i can do no wrong in his eyes

i can lie, i can steal, i can lust, i can kill
she will still hold me as dearly
i can talk to her without lighting a candle
without fasting
without taking off my shoes

i can hear her without a psychic or a priest
i can see her without a crystal ball
she is within me and around me

i am her child
always in her womb
always protected
always safe
always nourished

this is my god

Knock out Loud

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“And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.”
(Luke 11:9-10)

Often with our family and friends, and even with our god, we presume that they know what we want. We expect them to second guess us all the time. We expect them to know what we want, when we want it. We expect them to know our likes and dislikes – even when they change. It’s almost like proof of love – if you love me, you would know this about me or you wouldn’t need to ask. I remember asking my husband once if he knew my favourite colour. And he turned around and asked me if I knew my favourite colour. And I realised that I didn’t. It had changed and so had I. But I still expected to keep up with those changes and remember the new and maybe even the old. Good God!

With our God we expect God to know our innermost thoughts. And we have so many, some of them even self destructive. Imagine God granting all our wishes or making all our thoughts possible. Wouldn’t that be a nightmare?!

We have to understand that these are not mind readers and will not be able to understand what is not expressed. (And we all know that more times than ever, we don’t know what we want 😉

The trick is to ask, ASK out loud – and can you imagine all the drama getting eliminated! It’s not that the person doesen’t know you or love you or respect you. It’s not about the other person at all. Love yourself, respect yourself enough to ask for what you want. If it’s good for you, you’ll get it. It’s not selfish to ask either, or ill mannered, it’s just being honest.

Even with your God – Ask out loud so that he/she can hear. Knock till the door opens.

Flow with the Flow of Life

When I say “become water” I mean become a flow; don’t remain stagnant. Move, and move like water. Lao Tzu says: The way of the Tao is a watercourse way. It moves like water. What is the movement of water? or of a river? The movement has a few beautiful things about it. One, it always moves towards the depth, it always searches for the lowest ground. It is non-ambitious; it never hankers to be the first, it wants to be the last.

Remember, Jesus says: Those who are the last here will be the first in my kingdom of God. He is talking about the watercourse way of Tao–not mentioning it, but talking about it. Be the last, be non-ambitious. Ambition means going uphill. Water goes down, it searches for the lowest ground, it wants to be a nonentity. It does not want to declare itself unique, exceptional, extraordinary. It has no ego idea.

Osho Take it Easy, Volume 1 Chapter 14





For some reason, going against the current or fighting against odds has become aspirational and a sign of success. We feel we are not doing enough or feel complacent when we are not striving for something. How fast would you go if you were to flow with the current, how easy would it be to relax into the path of least resistance.

If it was that easy wouldn’t we all be doing it? 🙂 The strange bit is that we keep resisting the path of least resistance. The universe is constantly trying to pull us back to the flow and we get scared and our mind and body starts resisting. It’s amazing to be passive, to be receptive, to surrender and to flow.

Here are a few affirmations that really help when I get caught up with things and start resisting the flow.

I flow with the flow of life

I surrender to the will of the universe

I trust the process of life

Here are a few variations of the first depending on the situation you are facing.

It’s safe for me to flow with the flow of life

I choose to flow with the flow of life

I allow myself to flow with the flow of life



Migraines and More

The causes of Migraines are many and varied. And I will list them down. But when in the throes of one, you really don’t have the capacity to analyse your thoughts or emotions so this post is mostly about the non-medicinal alternates for curing Migraines.

Different things work for me so I go with what feels right at that point in time. Sometimes I go through the entire list and end up doing 2 or 3 different things. Sometimes none of this works and I just do some OTC drugs 🙂

One thing is for sure – if you catch the migraine at the onset, it is easiest to get rid of. Here is the list of cures that work for me, in order of efficacy.

1. Breathing: Usually a headache or migraine is due to the lack of oxygen in the brain. Especially when stressed, the first thing that happens to us is that our breathing gets compromised. When you have a headache just test your breath – most likely one of your nostrils will be blocked. Just gulping in huge amounts of fresh air can be a simple cure. Just breathe in as deeply as you can and breathe out as much as you can. Usually an 8 breath cycle works. If not, continue for another 8 till it works.

The other breathing exercise is anulom vilom or the alternate nostril breath, where you block off one nostril and breathe in through the other and then alternate. Please check this link ( to do this the right way.

2. Bathing: A hot shower can also help clear a nasal passage, making it easier to breathe and therefore reducing the headache. A shower also clears the crown chakra and if the migraine is because of a blocked crown then a salt shower can help even better.

3. Crystals: It’s just about finding the right one – the Lapis lazuli works for me, as does the smokey quartz. The black tourmaline also works with all aches and pains. A friend of mine swears by the amethyst. Placement is usually on the forehead or the point of pain. If working with two crystals, I put one on the head and the second under the tailbone. Basic principle is to choose the one you are attracted to.

4. Chanting:  2 mantra’s really work for me. The Ganesha mantra ‘om gum ganapataye namah‘ and the sikh mool mantra ‘ek onkar, satnam’. Chant for 108 times or till the pain is gone.

5. Follow the pain: my Reiki teacher had taught me this one and it’s amazing how this works when done correctly. Basically you pay attention to the pain and try and follow it to the point of origin. Eg. if the pain is deep in the eye (mine is mostly there), you follow it from the eye to deep within your skull, till you come to the point of origin. The second you touch the origin of the pain it disappears. The caveat with this is a lot of times you fall asleep just before you get to that point. Nonetheless, the little nap also helps.

6. Awareness: check out the reason for the migraine, the metaphysical reason that is. Migraines are mostly about conflicted thinking, so if you know what you are conflicted about just think it through. Or it’s guilt – a lot of times related to not doing something. Both Louise Hay and Lise Bourbeau have these in detail.

The one they don’t mention is the crown chakra pressure or a negative energy around you, which you can feel on the top of your head or surrounding the head. And people will say things about psychic attacks and energy vampires but it is mostly your own energy or emotion that you are unable to release. Here a simple salt bath or clearance with sage or the mantra ‘ek onkar, satnam’ really works. I actually do all three – burn sage incense in the bath, chant and have a salt shower.



Follow your Bliss

If you are one of the lucky ones who found what you loved to do early in life, don’t discount the miracle of it because for the rest of us it has been an long arduous journey.

It starts with – I don’t know what I want but I do know what I don’t want! And then the searching and seeking for what you do want. And that’s like kissing frogs. You have to kiss many to find your prince. And sometimes what you love lasts only for a brief period of time but it’s still worth giving it your all.

And it’s okay to change your mind and it’s okay to not make big money and it’s okay to not have the approval of your parents or friends. It’s okay as long as it is something you love. Because if you continue to follow your bliss, the approval and the money will all follow you.




that faint buzzing in your ears

allow yourself to listen
choose to listen
it is the sound of the universe

like the sea shell which whispers divine secrets
inside the whorls of your ear are the drums
that speak only to you


deep inside is the language
the language of the heart
which the mind cannot understand
the mind wants to speak
but the heart wants only to listen

listen to the rhythm of your heart
how it merges with the sound of the universe
listen to the music it creates
it’s your music
you are its creator
it sings from you
it sings only for you

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Carpe Gaudium

We keep thinking about when we will be happy. When I have a better job, when I go for a holiday, when I have achieved something, when my kids are home. It’s dependent on someone or something, or it is in the future. But none of these is the key, the thing about Joy is exactly that – you be joyous and it will open the door to more joy. If you keep postponing it or depend on someone else for it, it will play hard to get. Look within and Carpe Gaudium (seize the Joy) 😀

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